Last night I was doing my usual, laying in bed with Maci and scrolling through multiple social media sites before I watch Call the Midwife on Netflix and go to bed at 9:00 p.m. when I came across this gem: No, You’re Not More Of A “Real” Mom Because Your House Is Messy. It sparked my interest almost instantly, because there is always a blog post, a meme, or someone talking about how I (we as parents) should spend my time with my kid and not worrying about cleaning house. Bla bla bla, bla. I get it, the constant reminders of how I should leave my house a wreck and play with my kid. Cool, yes, enough, thanks for the constant reminders.
And then I read the article, specifically this “…Some people’s houses really are as clean and tidy as they look on Instagram and some people really are that crafty…”
Well, well, well. Isn’t that the truth. The paragraph goes on to say that some people enjoy getting dressed up (news to me!), and some actually make Pinterest meals from scratch, so on and so forth.
So, here is the deal. YES WORLD, one of my strengths is keeping my house clean. It gives me sanity, and it isn’t a crime to have a clean house. Trust me, I have my weaknesses, and I don’t feel like getting in to that right now. For real.
After I posted the article, Kristin, a friend of mine posted her own blog, How do you do it all? Perfect timing really, because I have heard a lot of comments lately about “how I have it so together” – what?! And apparently I am not the only one who responds with the answer that simply, “I don’t” – I don’t do some things (remember here, where I told the world I don’t clean my shower?)
It is so easy to get caught up in the comparing game, I do it myself. Typical thoughts are wow!!!!! my friend Andrea does so many cool crafts and she takes Alex outside like all the time. I shit you not, last night she sent me the pic below with a text saying “Also, I sent you this before I saw your FB post about real moms ;)”
My college roommate Tara looks seriously good when she is in photos, like perfect hair and skin and Rylan always has on trendy outfits that I could never put together.
Ashley’s girls have matching outfits while she runs a successful small business and she spends a ton of time with her family. Trifecta, huh?
Cori’s photos are always of her playing with her kids, I don’t think I have every played that much in my whole life.
A friend from high-school Kiersten is always posting the yummiest and HEALTHY looking meals!
So yeah. Everyone has their strengths and their weaknesses. My plan is to continue to surround myself with people who have different strengths, and not compare or be jealous of them, but learn to appreciate what we all bring to the table.
Check out those clean floors.